Right now you are probably feeling very devastated, having watched the most important person in your life walk through the door, wondering if she is ever going to come back. Things may not have been great the past few months but you never expected her to actually leave. The thought of her not being there with you tomorrow is unbearable and all you can think about is winning back your ex.
It may not feel that way now but you are not alone. Yet, most men wonder what they could have done differently and why their wife or girlfriend chose to leave their relationship.
Just like men, women leave relationships for a multitude of reasons such as constant fighting, infidelity, or simply differences of opinion. However the main reason why women leave relationships is not as complicated as one might think.
It is quite surprising when you look at the numbers, but women are twice as likely to file for divorce every year than men are. The same number of women are also more likely to try getting some form of relationship counseling before the relationship falls apart. When asked why they leave the relationship, many state that they feel unappreciated, or as if they were being put through some form of mental cruelty.
Some men feel shocked or surprised upon hearing this since it probably never crossed their mind that they were treating their wife or girlfriend unfairly. While most men appreciate everything their wife or girlfriend does, some are terrible at expressing this, especially if they have grown accustomed to everything she does.
To most women, ignoring these little acts of kindness is a slap in the face that says you don’t appreciate the things they do for you. The real danger comes when women who start to feel feel unappreciated begin looking elsewhere for someone else; someone who does seem to appreciate all the little things they do.
If you want to win your ex wife or your ex girlfriend back, let her know that she is important to you. Do something special to communicate that you do notice her.
Even if you went through a divorce and it has been finalized, it is not too late to get her attention and let her know that you miss her. Send her little notes telling her that you miss all the wonderful things that she did for you and the calls that she left you. More than likely she is missing you as well.
In many cases, all that she may need is some time to realize how much she misses you. Give her some time and space immediately following the breakup. Work on bettering yourself and when she sees you again as the person she married or got with in the first place, she may be willing to start fresh again.
Not only should you show her that she is appreciated, you also need to make it clear to her that you are willing to listen and solve problems together. If needed, apologize for some of your mistakes, and let her know that you are willing to work through these problems if she feels the same way.
Just remember that you do not want to demean yourself or seem like you are begging. You want her to see you as a confident knight in shining armor, not someone who is obsessively attempting to win her back.