You might feel overwhelmed with grief and sorrow when you realize the man of your dreams is leaving your life. And there is nothing you want more than to figure out what went wrong in the relationship, but what could you possibly do? Before you take any action, in order to start the process of winning your ex back, you first need to understand why men leave relationships.
Just like women, men leave relationships for a multitude of reasons, and although many expensive therapists and psychologists will come up with their own theories as to why – such as men looking for women like their mothers, or personal dilemmas in their lives which only they could solve – the answer is usually a simple one.
In some cases a much deeper motive might be the cause, but in most the situation is much simpler: men want to know and feel like they are special and wanted in your life.
Men grow up with the ideal that they need to be a knight in shining armor in your live and that you will constantly look up to them. When they open the door for you or hold out a chair for example, they expect you to notice these things and to acknowledge them in order to feel appreciated.
If after awhile you grow accustomed to these actions and expect them all the time, you might feel that a simple thank you, or an appreciative gesture is no longer necessary. In time, this would make him think you don’t appreciate the things he does for you.
If you want to get your ex boyfriend back, start letting him know you appreciate everything he does for you by reminding him of how wonderful it made you feel when he treated you like a princess.
Your man probably doesn’t feel like a knight in shining armor when you blame him for issues in the relationship or try to change some of his bad habits. When you do this, men begin to think you aren’t happy with who they are and that you just want to change them. If they think they have no redeeming qualities and that they can’t make you happy, then why stay?
This is also true when both of you fight. Many times men feel like dirt after a fight, as if there is nothing they can do to make you happy. If you want to win your ex back, don’t blame him for every problem in the relationship. Remind him of all of his wonderful qualities. No one is perfect, but it’s important for you to remember and to remind him of the great man you thought he was when you first met.
To help show your ex that he is worth your attention, start putting on the charm you used when you first started dating. Start wearing that skirt again that he loved back then, and that perfume he bought you for your birthday. Winning back your ex boyfriend will be much easier if he sees you are trying to get his attention. Remind him that you are that same loving, fun and positive person that appreciated him and you will have him back in no time.