For any man or woman, nothing is worse than hearing the words “it’s over.” Even if you saw the break up coming, nothing prepares you for the reality of the situation once loneliness and heartbreak overcome you. Is there anything left to do?
Actually, the situation may not be that bleak. If you are serious about getting your ex back, you can win their heart by following these 10 easy tips.
1. Keep your Distance
Give your ex and yourself some distance from each other to allow both of you to calm down and think rationally about the situation. You should avoid contacting them for about a month.
2. Take Care of Yourself
Take this time to give yourself a little TLC by going to the gym and giving your body a work out. Not only is exercise a great stress reliever, but if your ex sees you working out, it may make them think you are moving on and looking for a replacement, making them jealous.
3. Don’t be Needy
Do not call, text, or email your ex constantly to apologize or try to get their attention. After a week or two, send them a message telling them they are missed but that you are making it. Show them you are as independent and capable as you were when you first met.
4. Go Out For Coffee
Once you have given your ex some space for about a month, try to set up a non-committal meeting with them where you can show them the new you. Be charming and emphasize the parts of your personality that attracted him/her the first time. Remind them of what they’re missing.
5. Go out With Friends
Show your mutual friends that you are trying to move on by going out with them to the club or some other fun outing. If they see you doing well, they will report how you are doing to your ex.
6. Do Not Buy Gifts
Do not buy gifts or other item for your ex. You will not be able to win your ex back by buying their affection.
7. Listen to Them
When you talk to your ex, do not start throwing accusations or disagreeing with what they have to say. The process to get your ex back involves some give and take, but if they know you are listening to their concerns, they will be more likely to listen to yours, allowing you to open the lines of communication that could lead to reconciliation.
8. Be Optimistic
Once you are sitting down talking to you ex, you are already taking the most important step to winning your ex back.
9. Don’t Manipulate
Do not cry or be emotional just to get a reaction out of your ex. Stay calm and rational, showing them you can be an adult that can calmly work with them to solve the mutual problems of your relationship.
10. Family Contact
If you were close with your ex’s parents or siblings, continue to maintain and strengthen those relationships while you are apart. Once they see that you are still interested in your ex, they could start encouraging them to resolve your differences and get back together with you.