Few things are more terrifying than hearing the words ‘it’s over’ coming from the person you love. You might have been having problems with the relationship for some time, but you never thought it would ever go this far. Thoughts race through your head as you watch them quickly start packing their things, and then reality sinks in. The person you love is now threatening to be out of your life forever. You have heard of others going through a bad breakup, but how could something like this be happening to you? How could you survive the pain, or even go on with your life without them?
Even though the world may seem very bleak right now, you can survive a breakup. There are many examples of couples getting back together after breaking up, but for now you must first work on yourself in order to better handle the situation and your feelings. Following these simple but powerful pieces of relationship breakup advice will help you get through this dire time.
Five ways to help you survive a breakup:
This might actually hurt, but you have to accept that you were both having problems before the situation got to this point. Trying to convince your ex that this is a bad idea won’t work and will only backfire as it will make you look needy and like you are begging. Arguing right now will only lead to both of you saying things you may not mean or things that are untrue just to get them to stay. Agree with the breakup (for now) and to take some time apart.
2. Take a Break:
This might be the last thing you want to hear, but maybe it is best that both of you have at least a month apart with no contact. This will give you both the time to think about the problems in your relationship and possible solutions. Doing this will also show your ex that you respect them and their decisions. Once you have given them this month, call them and try to set up a friendly casual meetingto see where you stand.
3. Take Care of Yourself:
The best thing you can do to survive the breakup is to take care of yourself. If your ex sees that you are wallowing in self-pity, they will quickly lose interest in you as this is a sign of weakness that kills attraction. Start an exercise routine and eat healthy with the intent of losing some weight or building some muscle. This will make you feel much better about yourself when you look in the mirror. Exercise is also one of the best stress relievers. Just think about how your ex will react when they see the new you!
4. Avoid Being Alone:
One of the scariest aspects of trying to move on after a breakup is the fact that you will be alone. Many people decide to get back into a relationship just to avoid being alone despite all the problems they might still be having. In order to be sure you are making the right decision to be back with your ex, avoid spending long periods of time alone. Go out and do things with friends and family. Remember that they’re there for you during this difficult time.
It is alright to talk about your feelings, and in fact necessary if you are starting to feel depressed. If you feel you need help due to depression, alcoholism, or another issue that spun your life out of control, before or after the breakup, you may want to consider talking to a professional about it.
Surviving a breakup is possible with the right help and attitude. Just remember to first work on yourself before you attempt to reconnect with your ex. When you are ready, you may want to consider reading other useful information on the subject to help you deal with the breakup and get back together with your ex.