You pace across the floor of your apartment, facing away as you hear the door slam once again, ending the current argument you are having with your boyfriend or husband.
On the verge of tears you begin to wonder what is happening, remembering the days when both of you were cuddling on the couch, watching the latest movie or when he gave you a warm smile, surprised by the cute email you sent him at work.
In your heart, you can’t help but feel crushed, knowing that you are both on the verge of breaking up. Is there anything you could do to learn how to stop your breakup?
First off, don’t give up hope! Thousands of women go through this same problem each year and many end up turning things around with their significant other. One of the first things you need to know is to not give up. If you give up on your relationship, you are giving up on him. If he is important to you, isn’t he worth fighting for?
More than likely he is just as frustrated as you are and also trying to figure out what can be done to solve your shared dilemma. The fact that he is still there is a good sign that he loves you and is still willing to work on the relationship.
Sit down and try to think rationally about what has gone wrong between the two of you. It sometimes even helps to have a friend go over it with you, since they can see your relationship from the outside.
As much as you may be trying to hide it, your closest friends probably know you are having problems. They may even be able to help you based on their own personal experience.
Just make sure not to complain about him the entire time – this is not productive and you want to solve problems, not create them.
Once you have identified the problem, don’t ignore it. Calmly and rationally convince him to sit down and talk. Do not scream or get angry! If there is anything that will make him close off to you, it is accusations.
Let him know that he is still loved and admired by you. Every person wants to feel desired, and men are brought up being told they need to be your white knight in shining armor. Remind him of this, and remind him of all the wonderful qualities he has that made you fall in love with him.
Some men have trouble expressing their emotions, thus you are more likely to see positive results if you are calm and collected when you talk about the relationship. Remind him of the wonderful time you have together and what he does to make you feel like a princess. Don’t dwell on the negatives or he will think you are trying to pick a fight.
Once you have established a positive line of communication and are working together on problem solving, you will be on the road to saving your relationship. By reminding him that you are still the person he fell in love with, you will have taken the most important step to recovering your relationship.