Getting dumped by your girlfriend is a hard thing to deal with, and sometimes simply disregarding the relationship as if it never happened seems easier than actually dealing with the situation.
In most breakups, it is the woman who decides to break things up, but a large majority are opened to the possibility of turning things around even if they do not admit it. In fact, the breakup might had not been as well thought out a you think.
Your job at this point is to understand what went wrong and turn things around. If your ex got bored with you, then you will have to spice things up a little. If what she wanted was a flashier man, you might want to consider a makeover. And if you acted too needy in the relationship and it turned her off, then back off for a while. Being needy is probably the number one thing that turns a woman off, and coming up to her all the time trying to explain why you need to get back together will have the complete opposite effect of what you want.
Show her that you are the man she is trying to date. Do not explain this to her, just be the guy she wants. One way to accomplish this is by making yourself available and desirable to other woman – an in-demand guy.
You do not have to redefine yourself completely, you just have to create attraction by sending the right kinds of signals to woman. For example, if you see your ex with a group of friends, relax. Don’t panic or try to get her attention. Instead ignore her. Show her you are “over her” by walking up to her friends and paying more attention to them. Flirt with them a little, and if she has a plain looking friend, pay more attention to that one.
A word of caution: Do not use this opportunity as a childish and pathetic attempt to make her jealous. Being this immature will backfire on you. If you really care about her and want to get back with your ex, avoid stupid and destructive games.
Instead be cocky and funny at the same time. Make fun of her shoes, her dress and hairstyle, but don’t be a jerk about it. There is a fine line between being funny by “busting her balls” and being a complete jerk. Doing this will send the right signals that you are a confident man who doesn’t get intimidated by woman. This is the best way of creating attraction.
Even of you never run into your ex and her friends, go out and have fun meeting other woman. If are not ready to start dating casually, then have a guys night out and just flirt with them. This will give you the confidence you need to send the right signals when you do see your ex again.
You need to be aware that you are no longer exclusive with each other and that a new power relationship is at play. If you do not change your behavioral patterns towards your ex girlfriend, and keep doing the same things that lead to the breakup, you will have no chance of getting her back.
To take advantage of this new power shift, woo your ex by changing what needs to be changed and becoming the man every girl wants to date. Be unavailable to her and go out on casual dates from time to time. If these things do not work, then your ex has probably moved on by now and your chances of getting back are slim.
The good news is that in most cases these techniques will work, and you will able to get back together with your ex girlfriend.