Getting back with your ex boyfriend might not be the easiest thing, but by following these proven tips you can increase your chances of getting back with him. A lot of people aren’t successful at getting back with their ex, but it really isn’t their fault. They were never given an instructions manual on what to do after a breakup or how to handle one. Much less, how to get back with someone after breaking up. If you want to get him back, the following steps will help you achieve that goal.
1. Get Your Head Straight
Try to get rid of negative thoughts. You have to keep your emotions in check in order to prevent depression from keeping you down. Don’t feel sorry for yourself anymore and be strong. Negativity will run you down and can be very destructive.
2. Let Go of the Past
The relationship you use to have with your ex boyfriend is over now. Don’t regret things that you can’t change. No matter how much you wish things would have developed differently, you can not travel back in time to change them.
Focus on the present and realize that your relationship wasn’t perfect. Keep in mind that your relationship didn’t fall apart in one day, so don’t expect things to get better quickly. In order to get back with your ex boyfriend you will have to create a new foundation. Work on it right now and you will be on the right track to get back with him.
3. Give Him Space
Don’t obsess over your ex boyfriend. Nothing turns off a person more, specially an ex. If you feel like you have to hear his voice or see him, try to distract yourself by calling one of your girlfriends or going for a jog. If you really want him back, you will have to give him some space at first. Don’t contact him by phone, email, text, or Facebook for about a month. Give him time to miss you, or you will have a much harder time trying to get him interested in you again.
4. Work on Yourself
Right now is the time to work on yourself. Try getting makeover, new clothes, makeup, or hairstyle. If you gained a few extra pounds, go to the gym and start eating better. By improving your external appearance, you will feel better on the inside by boosting your confidence, health and happiness. When you feel happy and confident, you start projecting a stronger image about yourself onto others which make you more desirable. You will notice how men notice you more and people gravitate towards you, including your ex boyfriend.
5. Take it Slow
At this point, if you followed all the steps, your ex boyfriend will probably be wondering about you and will eventually get in touch with you. Imagine how he will feel when he sees the new you – more vibrant and confident. He might even regret breaking up with you.
Use his newfound interest to your advantage and take it slow. Limit your contact with him and play a little hard to get. This will only make him desire you even more driving him crazy. It will also help to make sure you don’t make any hasty decisions and jump right back into the relationship too soon only to break up again a few months later.
Following these steps will not be an easy thing to do in the beginning, but you must be strong and persevere no matter what your heart might be telling you. Be rational and resist the urges to see him again, and in no time you will be getting back with your ex boyfriend.