In the United States and many other countries, divorce is becoming more and more common with sometimes 50% of all marriages ending in divorce. With this high percentage, it seems like it would be very difficult to make marriage work, however most problems in a marriage can be easily fixed with the right approach.
The following 4 tips will help you work on your marriage issues the right way. Some of them may seem like common sense, yet many people fail to realize this and end up running into problems that are very easily fixed.
1. Stop Arguing
I order to save your marriage you’ll have to learn to “let it go” sometimes. Learn to pick your fights wisely. Before you feel the urge to nag or start an argument with your spouse, ask yourself if it’s really worth the stress right now, or if you should just let it go and move on.
You will have to take the initiative here. It’s much easier for one person to teach by example than by lecture, specially if you are prone to arguing. Once you begin to let things go, your spouse will take notice and follow suit. It really comes down to choosing what’s more important: making sure you are right all the time and that your partner doesn’t screw up again, or saving your marriage. It’s your choice.
2. Start Dating
I know what you must be thinking: I’m trying to save my marriage here, why would I want to start dating? Well the idea here is to start dating your partner again, not somebody else. When you two first started dating everything was new and exiting. But after many years this feeling wears off and the relationship might become predictable and boring.
If you want to reignite the spark in your marriage, you have to break off the routines and familiar patterns that make relationships predictable and monotonous. Surprise your spouse with a romantic night, or a simple love note in the bathroom mirror. By being a little more spontaneous and unpredictable you will introduce that excitement you both felt in the beginning when you first met.
3. Do What Makes Them Happy
Everybody is different and we prefer different things for what makes us happy. Some want to be told how much they are loved all the time. Others prefer little gestures like opening the door for them, or a call at work to remind them they are missed. Some might consider that filling up the gas tank on their car is the ultimate act of love. The point here is that if you do what makes your partner happiest, your time loving them will be much more effective.
4. Be Physically Affectionate
It is not uncommon for married couples to get into the routine of marriage, responsibilities and kids, and start to slack off on the physical aspects of the relationship. Most don’t realize how important this is.
Marriage (and love in general) is not all about sex, but it sure is an important factor in every relationship. If you want to save your marriage, start being more affectionate to your partner. Give them a hug when they walk by, or surprise them with a kiss when they are sitting in from of the computer. Do this constantly in a spontaneous way and you will see how your marriage starts to develop into a more loving relationship.