As you watch him from across the table, you cannot help but notice him looking away, disinterested as you talk, both of you on the verge of yet another argument. You love him so much, but you have seen him growing more distant as time passes and always seeming too busy to do some of the things that you both used to love. When you consider the fact that he is showing signs of breaking up, you feel like you can’t face reality and hope that it will all go away eventually. How could you ever live without him?
Even though the situation might seem hopeless to you, it is not too late to win him back. The following five tips will help you stop an imminent break up, and possibly reverse your situation in no time.
Nothing is more important in a relationship than communication, and nothing destroys a relationship faster than two people feeling they cannot speak their mind. Take some time out of your day and go over the issues that are stressing both of you. That will show your boyfriend that you care, and can sympathize with his problems.
If you truly want to stop your break up, show your boyfriend that you can listen to him and that his concerns are important to you. Every so often, repeat some of the things he’s told you to prove this, showing that his wants and desires mean something to you. Once you have shown him that you can listen, he will be more willing to listen to you.
3. Be Positive
When both of you are talking about the problems in your relationship, do not constantly dwell on the negatives or blame him for these problems since this will only lead to another argument. Be calm and rational, showing him that you are confident in your ability to work through these troubles together.
4. Don’t Be Over Emotional
Do not cry or be over emotional in disagreements. This will only make him think he is constantly hurting you or that he can no longer talk to you. Even worse, he may think you are trying to manipulate him with your tears, leading him to possibly consider doing something drastic – like breaking up with you.
5. Dinner for Two
For those of you who have children, make sure you make occasional arrangements for a sitter so that both of you can take a break from being Mommy and Daddy. Many men become jealous if they feel that you only have room in your life for a child. Show them that they are loved and wanted by giving them this alone time.
If you can apply these five easy tips to your relationship, you will be able to stop or even reverse the break up. Practice these things everyday and you will soon discover that as time goes by, your relationship will become stronger and healthier than it even was before.