Few things cause more pain than going through a breakup and getting your heart broken.
Regardless of who called it off, a breakup will cause pain on both sides. Sometimes it is predictable, but other times it seems to come from out of nowhere for not reason whatsoever. These breakups tend to be the most painful to endure.
If you do not make it a goal to deal with the breakup and get over it, some serious consequences might develop later on. It is very easy to fall into the trap of dwelling over your ex and become a victim in your own tragic love tale, but you should try to avoid this at all costs.
You must realize that if you don’t deal with the situation and get over the breakup, it will cause you problems in future relationships.
Also, running away from the problem, bottling it, or medicating it will not make things better in the long run. You must face and deal with the situation head-on.
You have to accept the breakup for what it is and understand that there will be pain. Remember that with a broken heart there is no way out, only a way through. Understand the pain by writing a letter to yourself explaining everything you are going through. Seek counseling, or write a song. Keep in mind there are no quick fixes for dealing with a breakup.
The next step is for you to analyze your past relationship and try to determine what could have lead to the breakup. Examine the deeper issues as well, such as childhood experiences that cause you to behave a certain way. This will not only help you deal with the breakup, but to learn from it as well so the situation doesn’t repeat itself in the future.
Do not play the victim either. Take responsibility for your mistakes. It takes two to have a relationship, and while your ex might have been the one to initiate the breakup, the underlying circumstances were a result of both of your actions.
Playing the victim often leads to a self-fulfilling prophesy. This perception is usually a result of irrational thoughts and attitudes that shape your view of reality. By ridding yourself of this thought pattern you will become a more confident and attractive mate in future relationships.
The best way to handle a broken heart is by being aware of the pain, acknowledging it, and eventually letting go of it. This is the only way to put an end to the pain and enable healing. If you don’t handle the situation this way, you will never get over the breakup.
Healing a broken heart takes time and work. You just lost someone extremely important in your life, but if you use this time to work on yourself and grow as a person, you will become emotionally stronger and better equip to have healthier relationships in the future, and maybe even rekindle the spark with your ex someday.