When going through a bad breakup, most people feel like the world is ending and there is nothing they can do to possibly get their ex back. What most people do not realize is that a breakup does not necessarily mean the end. In many cases it is actually a new beginning. As long as you don’t give up, you can survive a breakup and have a better, healthier relationship with your ex.
It is actually very common for people to get back together after a bad breakup. Men and women break up for a variety of reasons such as infidelity, constant fighting, or differences of opinion. In most cases, all of these issues can be resolved and worked through, if at least one person has a desire to fight for the relationship.
The first thing you need to do is be positive. If you do not want your relationship to end, you need to be in the right frame of mind to win your ex back. You will need to start dealing with the breakup first by not having any contact with your ex. This is going to hurt, but it’s the best for you and them. This period of about a month will give you time to reflect on the relationship and give yourself proper time to pull yourself together. Don’t sit around and mourn your relationship since you are a now on a mission to recreate the feeling of love both of you had in the beginning. During this time you should eat healthy, exercise, shop for clothes, and give yourself a personal makeover that will not only help you get your ex’s attention, but boost your self confidence as well.
Do not contact your ex or answer any calls from them. The next time you talk to them, you want them to see that you are more mature and willing to work through your problems. Once this time period has passed, you may call and try to get them to go to lunch with you. As long as you keep a positive mindset, they may be willing to have a non-committal meeting with you.
When you meet up, make sure to be the person they fell in love with by being confident, strong, and showing off the new you. Your willingness to renew and improve yourself will prove to them that you are ready to make a serious new start of the relationship. Make sure to wear whatever cologne or perfume they love to help bring back positive nostalgic memories. Just remember to listen to everything they say andbe respectful by not bringing up the past.
If you can recreate those wonderful feelings you both had in the beginning, odds are you will both be falling in love all over again. Not only will you have survived the breakup, but you will also show your lover that you are both ready and able to have a new healthier relationship.